New Year New Family Part 4



New Year New Family Part 4- “Husbands” 1Peter 3:7

INTRO> We are in part 4 of our series this week. We have been looking at what the bible has to say about Growing a Family God’s Way. Last week was a tough week as we looked at the role of the wife from 1 Peter 3:1-6. But it is nothing compared to this week… i would argue that the reason that last week was so hard, is because of this week.

TRANS> I ran across something this weekend studying, do you know what the most endangered species is, right now at this very moment? It is the Ivorybilled Woodpecker, so endangered it may even be extinct already. But i would actually disagree with that… by far the most endangered species on the planet… are biblical men and even more than that biblical husbands. Our society is ravaged with millions of casualties and broken homes and abused women and half satisfying marriages because why? Because men are failing.

TRANS> None would disagree with this statement at all… why you say? How did this happen? Turn in your bibles to Genesis 3.

  • Notice Satan comes after the woman.
  • Notice her husband is with her! (passivity)
  • Notice the man runs from his problems. (reject responsibility)
  • Notice God calls for “the man” why?

APP> God holds husbands responsible for the home.

“But I want you to understand that the head of every man is Christ, the head of the wife is her husband, and the head of Christ is God.” 1 Corinthians 11:3

“Husbands love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word.” Ephesians 5:25-26

Big Idea> Husbands are to love like the Savior and lead like a Servant.

CONTEXT> Back to 1 Peter 3. How can husbands do this?

Notice in the text that Peter laid out 6 verse’s for the women, and one verse for the dudes. But he breaks it down for us:

  1. Spend time with your wife. 7a
      • “husbands live…” The word live there means to dwell deeply together. Notice to that he said “wife” and not “fiancee or girlfriend”

APP> Why is this so hard for us, because our sinful bent is to neglect our wives, plain and simple. And i have to be honest here, I am so concerned about this men who go to bed at night with all this energy! You should be spent, from work, to the kids, to your wife. *ILL- Being in TX and The Village church, Matt Chandler. Men try this 15 minutes a day, 1 evening a week, one day a month, one weekend a year.

2) Study your Wife. 7b

      • “understanding way…” a lot of translations say “according to knowledge.” Meaning, live with her in a way that you are learning her.

APP> Go to school for your wife. You can tell me who pitched for the cardinals in 1976 but you can’t tell me what your wife dreams are right now? Find out what excites her what she likes and dislikes! *ILL- When Courtnee and I got married, she dosen’t like flowers. Movies weren’t quality time. Guys, women change.. you have to keep studying her! APP> do your home work! Romance is the response to sacrifice and planning not convince.

3) Honor your Wife. 7c

    • “Showing honor” this is a big deal this word honor is only used here in the NT. It means to honor the price of something. How can you do this?

APP> Men honor your wives: 1) Publicly. 2) Privately. 3) Frequently.

4) Protect your Wife. 7d

      • “as the weaker vessel” this word vessel literally means pottery and or fragile. It has nothing to do with value. it means one thing, protection.

APP> In what ways can men protect their wives? You would say physically, yea sure. The main way…. your own sin. Why are we more quick to shoot a robber and not our own sin? Pornography? Your Tone in a argument? The way you spend money?

5) Pray with your Wife. 7e

      • “so your prayers are not hindered” The word “your” here is plural. Hinting that couples pray. What is Peter saying here? He is saying the your horizontal affects the vertical.

APP> Some of you have claimed the name of Jesus for years and have never prayed out loud with your wife. Are you kidding me? This is manhood, this is leading your family. God holds you accountable.

Big Idea> Husbands are to love like the Savior and lead like a Servant.

“The husband is the head of the wife just in so far as he is to her what Christ is to the Church – read on – and give his life for her (Eph. V, 25). This headship, then, is most fully embodied not in the husband we should all wish to be, but in the man whose marriage is most like a crucifixion; whose wife receives most and gives least,” C.S. Lewis


The call today is to the men, a very specific call. Manhood has nothing to do with age or a beard.

“When i was a child, I spoke like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When i became a man, I gave up childish ways.” 1 Corinth 13:11

APP > Men, Repent, come pray with your wife.